Being Young & Twenty

As a young person, I always get asked the same question. So, what do you want to do with your life? And my answer still remains, I don’t know. It used to stress me out a lot. My mind was flooded with endless questions that I just didn’t have answers to, whilst everyone around me seemed to have an idea, a dream, a plan. But now, as I turn twenty I’m starting to embrace the uncertainty and letting it empower me rather than scare me.

I think there is this huge misconception that ‘being young and twenty’ means having your life figured out. That your teenage years are your experimental years and when you reach your twenties you should have a life plan. But I don’t believe that. To me, being young and twenty is your time for figuring it all out. It’s a case of trial and error, as we all search for those things that make us happy and try to incorporate them into our lives as much as possible.
I may not know what job I want or where I want to live or at what age I want to do ‘adult’ things, like move out and settle down, but I do know this:
I want to learn so much more, from people, books and experiences. I want to travel and explore. Document life. Be creative. Become a better person. Help people, inspire them. Make a difference. Have fun. And there’s no better time to tick of all those things on my bucket list, than right now as I venture further into my twenties.
So to those who are twenty and confused, and still have your life to figure out, this is our time. Our world may be full of doubts and uncertainty but it’s full of possibility and we have the freedom to explore it.
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5 thoughts on “Being Young & Twenty

  1. I found your site through your post on Jennifer’s site, and I already left a comment there… I also just wanted to say that I love reading this kind of authentic honesty. I’ve lived most of my life feeling like everyone around me has everything together, and I don’t… but I’ve realized more and more that many others struggle with the same kinds of things I do. Thank you for sharing.


    1. Thank you, that really means a lot.

      What I’ve discovered is that nobody has a clue what they’re doing, we’re all just making it up as we go along. And it’s perfectly fine to do this, just make sure that every decision you make in life, is going to bring you one step closer to absolute happiness. That’s what life is about after all.

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      1. Very true. I’m at a point where I feel like I need to reevaluate some of the people in my life, and some of the ways I spend my time, to see if any of them are bringing me down more than they bring me up. It might be painful in the short run, but if I don’t change myself, I can’t make anything else change.


  2. That’s a good plan. Maybe write a list and reflect on those aspects of your life you want to change. In terms of letting people go, that’s a very brave thing to do but I encourage it if it’s going to make things better. Sometimes people grow apart and just don’t fit in each other’s lives anymore, or sometimes it’s best to let them go because they seem to only hurt you. But remember, the people that belong in your life will always come back. I promise.

    I really wish you luck on this!

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    1. I’ve been thinking that I might need a break from socializing for a while, so I can figure out which of my friends and activities I really miss and which ones I’m probably better off without. But I also don’t want to back out on anything I’ve already committed to, because that would make me no better than all the flakes who back out on me and frustrate me so much. And I also need to work on acceptance, because I can’t change everything. I can’t make people less flaky, and I can’t make more people have more in common with me.

      But you’re right… people will come back into my life if it was meant to be. And it won’t always be who I expect.


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